Marriage is God’s government on earth. This is the reason why traditional marriage is under attack by the United Nations and The United States of America. They are replacing traditional marriage between a man and a woman with alternate lifestyles. In other words, anything different than traditional marriage can be called a family. It can be a marriage between two men, two women, a person and a building, an animal, one man and three women or just living in open fornication.

Why is biblical marriage under attack? In marriage, the man represents Jesus and the woman represents the church (the bride). They are to be totally dedicated to each other and trust one another. They are to forgive one another and not bring up each other’s past to hold against them or bring attack on them. Satan is the accuser of the brethren and knows if he tears apart Christian couples, he is tearing down the perfect image of Jesus and His sacrifice to the church.

Jesus totally trusts God the Father and refuses to listen to another voice like Satan in the wilderness or men tempting him on earth. Likewise, the wife is supposed to listen to her husband and not listen to other voices, especially men’s voices. This is out of order and could lead to false loyalties and emotional soul ties. Husbands are to love and be loyal to their wives and not have other women occupy their time or friendships.

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO LEAD THEIR WIVES - LEAD THEIR FAMILIES

Ephesians 5:23 NKJV

23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO LOVE THEIR WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODY

Ephesians 5:28 NKJV

28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO FOCUS ON THEIR WIVES AND NO OTHERS

Proverbs 5:20 NKJV

20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO TREAT THEIR WIVES WITH GENTLENESS, NEVER HARSHLY

Colossians 3:19 NKJV

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO PRAISE THEIR WIVES, NOT CRITICIZE OR CONDEMN

Proverbs 31:28 NKJV

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

  1. HUSBANDS ARE TO HONOR THEIR WIVES

Hebrews 13:4 NKJV

4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

ACCORDING TO EXPERTS THE FOUR NEEDS OF A MAN ARE:

  1. Respect
  2. Sex
  3. Friendship (Fun)
  4. Support (Trust and Approval)

THE FOUR NEEDS OF A WOMAN ARE:

  1. Security
  2. Non-sexual affection
  3. Open Communication
  4. Husbands to Lead

THE QUICKEST WAY TO MAKE A HUSBAND BITTER AND ANGRY IS TO SHOW DISLOYALTY AND DISRESPECT! You must show respect, not just say it.

Never leave a true relationship because of a few faults.

Nobody is perfect. In the end, affection is always greater than perfection.

8 Ways to love Your Hubby

  1. Let the little things go. Focus on the majors, not the minors.
  2. Work through the big things.
  3. Enjoy the man he is.
  4. Speak well about him to others.
  5. Keep having fun together.
  6. Be honest.
  7. Do not put children above your spouse.
  8. Show him how much you love him.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND HAPPY

  1. Dress up, especially for him.
  2. Work on the romance to keep your husband happy. Prioritize your sex life.
  3. Give him some personal space as well.
  4. Book that special corner table.
  5. Learn to cook his favorite food.
  6. Appreciate him for what he does for you.
  7. Do not shy away from expressing your love.

Joan Hunter stated:

  1. Sow love, you will reap love.
  2. Sow hatred, you will reap hatred.
  3. Sow anger, you will reap anger.
  4. Sow division, you will be divided
  5. Sow peace, you will reap peace.
  6. Sow discord, you will reap discord

NOTE: A woman asked another woman, “Are you saying I am disrespecting my husband because I am friends with a man?" It’s not your friendship with a man, but the point is, you're not listening to your husband. Love to a man is respect. It's saying, "I might not agree with this, but I respect your judgment, so I am going to go with it. I am going to do what you want/advise." Men don’t want an argumentative woman.”

A MAN KNOWS WHEN HE IS WITH THE RIGHT WOMAN BECAUSE SHE MAKES HIM BETTER!

SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP:

  1. You feel like you are walking on egg shells.
  2. You are constantly being criticized and made to feel disrespected.
  3. The toxic person sees themselves as the victim and consequently cannot see the wrongness and hurtfulness of their behavior toward their spouse.
  4. The toxic person cannot see the value, wisdom and strength of their mate, only their perceived weaknesses.
  5. They leave you insecure and emotionally exhausted.
  6. They can blow up like a volcano in an instant.
  7. They see people as cold, cruel and evil.
  8. They are very judgmental.
  9. They can misinterpret a person’s innocent comments or actions and be ridged in their opinion, not open to be swayed by discussion.
  10. They are argumentative and quick to anger.
  11. They are bossy and self-centered.
  12. They are arrogant; thinking they are more intelligent than their mate, but cannot see how their mate has much knowledge and skills that they don’t posses and God put them together to complement each other, not compete.
  13. They can be seen as a perfectionist or hostile person.
  14. They can be very aggressive instead of patient, kind and understanding, giving grace and encouragement to build their mate up, not tear them down.
  15. They don’t want to calmly sit down and talk about the situation until the party is satisfied they have adequately explained themselves.

NOTE: There is nothing more damaging to your husband then a nagging wife who nitpicks about everything. This will not shame him into changing, but destroy your relationship as there is no grace, but only vindictive pride attacking instead of encouraging your spouse.

Proverbs 12:4 NKJV

4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.

CONCLUSION:

I could go on and on with the subject. Countless college courses and books have been written on this form of God’s government on earth.

My article, written on 7/26/99 entitled “Trinity and Marriage”, illustrates that as in the Godhead, there are different roles and responsibilities between the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Each one honors and respects the other's position and does not try to usurp it.

Husbands and wives must do the same or there will be conflict, as a Jezebel or Absalom spirit tries to destroy the relationship. They will forget all about the Divine Nature of God that forgives the past and doesn’t bring up past failures, but instead throws it in their partners face to hurt them. Now the nature of the flesh is in full operation and the family is under attack because of pride. This originated in the garden with Satan, Eve and Adam who questioned and doubted God’s government and the result was rebellion and the destruction of their way of life.

Please learn God’s government and stay under the blood, where the death angel cannot destroy your beautiful family. Wait patiently for God’s timing to bring all the desires of your heart, as long as they are really from God, and they will come to pass.

Dr. Jonathan Hansen

 

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