In addition, have you noticed that once you have politely, with as much entreating and wisdom as possible, asked a man or boy not to wear their earrings in a Christian ceremony, (so as not to offend others) they are usually very arrogant and resentful? Many times, from that time on, they avoid you. They may even refuse to participate by saying, “I just won’t come then.” This is an attitude of pride and rebellion. It is not that you have rejected them, but their pride has been pricked which should be crucified daily. It is because of this pride that they now reject future fellowship with you even though you still desire a relationship with them. It is not the righteous refusing fellowship, but the proud. Sin brings separation. The righteous would understand and forgive and not purposely offend or refuse to participate in a function. Rather, they would do all they could to be without sin and strive to bring peace.
What about girls and women who wear dresses so tight one can see their underwear, or so short one has to constantly turn away to avoid being embarrassed? What about girls and women wearing bikinis or other provocative attire? The Bible tells us to flee temptation and to run from evil. Why then do we tempt others with our dress? Could it be because of pride and lust? I John 2:15-17 states, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.”
Why is it that when prostitutes truly get saved their attire and appearance totally change? They will tell you it is because they are no longer wanting to attract and entice a man. I have met many men who upon accepting Jesus immediately took their earrings out of their ears because they said it was obvious to them they had worn them to be different. They wore them because of pride and rebellion which is no longer a problem.
People, let’s get real! The reason why girls and women wear dresses, swimsuits and other attire that reveals a lot of flesh is because of their vanity. One can take proper pride in ones appearance without sinning in the process. Tight dresses, skirts far above the knees, revealing swimsuits or bikinis and other provocative attire is sin. It is a sign of being led by the flesh .Why is it that we are so fast to defend our pride, vanity and lust? Some people reading this are continuing to label it as legalism. Why do they try to be as the world without any noticeable differences in deed or action, heart motives, attitudes or characteristics? Why do they run as close to the world or become part of the world instead of running far away from the world? Do they really have a relationship with Jesus Christ and follow Him as a disciple or are they just a fan of His? The fact of the matter is that many girls and women are so caught up with themselves instead of Jesus that they go to church to participate in the dating game as they try to draw attention to themselves. As Solomon would say “Vanity of vanities... all is vanity.” (Ecclesiastes 1:2)
Proverbs 6:23-29 states, “For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbor’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.”
The rebel, the proud, the arrogant, and the hypocrite will demand, “show me in the Bible where it says we cannot wear bikinis or men should not wear earrings.” The answer is found in the same place as one would find that Jesus went to the toilet; or washed His clothes and body. It is intuitively obvious to all who love the truth and search it with a pure heart instead of an unethical lawyer trying to free his guilty client. We do not excuse our vanity by saying, “oh that is his problem if he is looking or lusting.” It is our problem according to Jesus and Scripture because we are to do everything in our power not to cause one to stumble.
Again, the character, attitude or personality of Jesus, which is called the Fruit of the Holy Spirit, does not demand its own way, but thinks of what is best for Jesus and others. We, as followers of Jesus, are to develop the same personality through the Holy Spirit. Our attitude should be: “not our will but thine be done”. Again, this is totally against the American cultures motto of “I’ll do it my way!”
Scripture tells us to be lovers of truth and when confronted with it we are to accept it and repent of prior lifestyles and choices. Today however, many churches are allowing their congregations to conform to pagan dress and apparel. They do not confront the sin or the attitude of people in these damnable life choices lest they offend. Instead, they allow this type of pride, lust and rebellion to manifest until it bears its full fruits of disrespect to parents, strife, cross dressing, homosexuality, petting, premarital sex and pregnancy, fornication, adultery, abortion, etc. All of these fruits which are found in the lust of the flesh will bring about eternal dam- nation if left unchanged.
Yes, earrings worn by men is sin. Very short dresses and skirts worn by women is sin. And yes, Jesus changed His clothes. It is all common sense to the innocent but parables to the proud!
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